diff --git a/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.tsx b/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.tsx
index 89c4a06520..76ef0ae34e 100644
--- a/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.tsx
+++ b/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.tsx
@@ -8,11 +8,13 @@ import type * as bsky from '#/types/bsky'
 
 export function ActionsWrapper({
   message,
+  convoId,
   isFromSelf,
   senderProfile,
   children,
 }: {
   message: ChatBskyConvoDefs.MessageView
+  convoId: string
   hasReactions?: boolean
   isFromSelf: boolean
   senderProfile?: bsky.profile.AnyProfileView
@@ -21,7 +23,10 @@ export function ActionsWrapper({
   const {t: l} = useLingui()
 
   return (
-    <MessageContextMenu message={message} senderProfile={senderProfile}>
+    <MessageContextMenu
+      message={message}
+      convoId={convoId}
+      senderProfile={senderProfile}>
       {trigger =>
         // will always be true, since this file is platform split
         trigger.IS_NATIVE && (
diff --git a/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.web.tsx b/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.web.tsx
index 0d3df37637..99ba3351f5 100644
--- a/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.web.tsx
+++ b/src/components/dms/ActionsWrapper.web.tsx
@@ -16,12 +16,14 @@ import {hasReachedReactionLimit} from './util'
 
 export function ActionsWrapper({
   message,
+  convoId,
   hasReactions,
   isFromSelf,
   senderProfile,
   children,
 }: {
   message: ChatBskyConvoDefs.MessageView
+  convoId: string
   hasReactions?: boolean
   isFromSelf: boolean
   senderProfile?: bsky.profile.AnyProfileView
@@ -115,7 +117,10 @@ export function ActionsWrapper({
             )
           }}
         </EmojiReactionPicker>
-        <MessageContextMenu message={message} senderProfile={senderProfile}>
+        <MessageContextMenu
+          message={message}
+          convoId={convoId}
+          senderProfile={senderProfile}>
           {({props, state, IS_NATIVE, control}) => {
             // always false, file is platform split
             if (IS_NATIVE) return null
diff --git a/src/components/dms/MessageContextMenu.tsx b/src/components/dms/MessageContextMenu.tsx
index 8e6c470d59..90d1062e67 100644
--- a/src/components/dms/MessageContextMenu.tsx
+++ b/src/components/dms/MessageContextMenu.tsx
@@ -31,10 +31,12 @@ import {hasReachedReactionLimit} from './util'
 
 export let MessageContextMenu = ({
   message,
+  convoId,
   senderProfile,
   children,
 }: {
   message: ChatBskyConvoDefs.MessageView
+  convoId: string
   senderProfile?: bsky.profile.AnyProfileView
   children: TriggerProps['children']
 }): React.ReactNode => {
@@ -181,11 +183,12 @@ export let MessageContextMenu = ({
           )}
         </ContextMenu.Outer>
       </ContextMenu.Root>
+
       <ReportDialog
         control={reportControl}
         subject={{
           view: 'message',
-          convoId: convo.convo.view.id,
+          convoId,
           message,
         }}
         onAfterSubmit={() => {
@@ -199,7 +202,7 @@ export let MessageContextMenu = ({
         control={blockOrDeleteControl}
         currentScreen="conversation"
         params={{
-          convoId: convo.convo.view.id,
+          convoId,
           message,
         }}
       />
diff --git a/src/components/dms/MessageItem.tsx b/src/components/dms/MessageItem.tsx
index a4cf84e986..ae7cebce0a 100644
--- a/src/components/dms/MessageItem.tsx
+++ b/src/components/dms/MessageItem.tsx
@@ -85,12 +85,14 @@ function isWithinClusterBoundary({
 
 let MessageItem = ({
   item,
+  convoId,
   isGroupChat = false,
   prevMessage,
   nextMessage,
   relatedProfiles,
 }: {
   item: ConvoItem & {type: 'message' | 'pending-message'}
+  convoId: string
   isGroupChat?: boolean
   prevMessage:
     | ChatBskyConvoDefs.MessageView
@@ -431,6 +433,7 @@ let MessageItem = ({
               hasReactions={hasReactions}
               isFromSelf={isFromSelf}
               message={message}
+              convoId={convoId}
               senderProfile={profile}>
               {AppBskyEmbedRecord.isView(message.embed) && (
                 <MessageItemEmbed
diff --git a/src/screens/Messages/Conversation.tsx b/src/screens/Messages/Conversation.tsx
index fcaecc425b..a850506d2b 100644
--- a/src/screens/Messages/Conversation.tsx
+++ b/src/screens/Messages/Conversation.tsx
@@ -114,6 +114,10 @@ function Inner({convoId}: {convoId: string}) {
     ? parseConvoView(convoData, currentAccount?.did)
     : null
 
+  const isDisabled = Boolean(
+    convoData?.members.find(m => m.did === currentAccount?.did)?.chatDisabled,
+  )
+
   // Because we want to give the list a chance to asynchronously scroll to the end before it is visible to the user,
   // we use `hasScrolled` to determine when to render. With that said however, there is a chance that the chat will be
   // empty. So, we also check for that possible state as well and render once we can.
@@ -187,20 +191,18 @@ function Inner({convoId}: {convoId: string}) {
           hasScrolled={hasScrolled}
           setHasScrolled={setHasScrolled}
           isActive={isConvoActive(convoState)}
-          isDisabled={convoState.status === ConvoStatus.Disabled}
+          isDisabled={isDisabled}
           hasMessages={isConvoActive(convoState) && convoState.items.length > 0}
+          readyToShow={readyToShow}
         />
         {!readyToShow && (
           <View
             style={[
               a.absolute,
-              a.z_10,
-              a.w_full,
-              a.h_full,
+              a.inset_0,
+              {zIndex: -10},
               a.justify_center,
               a.align_center,
-              // t.atoms.bg,
-              {backgroundColor: 'rgba(255,0,0,0.2)'},
             ]}>
             <View style={[{marginBottom: 75}]}>
               <Loader size="xl" />
@@ -219,6 +221,7 @@ function InnerReady({
   isActive,
   isDisabled,
   hasMessages,
+  readyToShow,
 }: {
   hasScrolled: boolean
   setHasScrolled: React.Dispatch<React.SetStateAction<boolean>>
@@ -226,6 +229,7 @@ function InnerReady({
   isActive: boolean
   isDisabled: boolean
   hasMessages: boolean
+  readyToShow: boolean
 }) {
   const navigation = useNavigation<NavigationProp>()
   const {top: topInset} = useSafeAreaInsets()
@@ -317,12 +321,14 @@ function InnerReady({
       ) : (
         header
       )}
-      {isActive && (
+      {isActive && convo && (
         <MessagesList
+          convo={convo}
           hasScrolled={hasScrolled}
           setHasScrolled={setHasScrolled}
           hasAcceptOverride={!!params.accept}
           transparentHeaderHeight={IS_LIQUID_GLASS ? headerHeight : 0}
+          hideMessages={!readyToShow}
           footer={footer}
         />
       )}
diff --git a/src/screens/Messages/ConversationSettings/index.tsx b/src/screens/Messages/ConversationSettings/index.tsx
index c65f2caff9..86e61fbbe8 100644
--- a/src/screens/Messages/ConversationSettings/index.tsx
+++ b/src/screens/Messages/ConversationSettings/index.tsx
@@ -16,9 +16,9 @@ import {
   type NavigationProp,
 } from '#/lib/routes/types'
 import {logger} from '#/logger'
-import {ConvoProvider, isConvoActive, useConvo} from '#/state/messages/convo'
-import {ConvoStatus} from '#/state/messages/convo/types'
 import {useModerationOpts} from '#/state/preferences/moderation-opts'
+import {ConvoProvider} from '#/state/messages/convo'
+import {useConvoQuery} from '#/state/queries/messages/conversation'
 import {useEditGroupChatName} from '#/state/queries/messages/edit-group-chat-name'
 import {useLeaveConvo} from '#/state/queries/messages/leave-conversation'
 import {useListConvoMembersQuery} from '#/state/queries/messages/list-convo-members'
@@ -34,6 +34,7 @@ import * as Dialog from '#/components/Dialog'
 import {
   type ConvoWithDetails,
   type GroupConvoMember,
+  parseConvoView,
 } from '#/components/dms/util'
 import {Error} from '#/components/Error'
 import {ArrowBoxLeft_Stroke2_Corner0_Rounded as ArrowBoxLeftIcon} from '#/components/icons/ArrowBoxLeft'
@@ -94,30 +95,35 @@ export function MessagesConversationSettingsScreen({route}: Props) {
         <Layout.Header.Slot />
       </Layout.Header.Outer>
       <ConvoProvider key={convoId} convoId={convoId}>
-        <SettingsInner />
+        <SettingsInner convoId={convoId} />
       </ConvoProvider>
     </Layout.Screen>
   )
 }
 
-function SettingsInner() {
+function SettingsInner({convoId}: {convoId: string}) {
   const {t: l} = useLingui()
-  const convoState = useConvo()
   const navigation = useNavigation<NavigationProp>()
   const moderationOpts = useModerationOpts()
+  const {currentAccount} = useSession()
+  const {data: convoData, error, refetch} = useConvoQuery({convoId})
 
-  if (convoState.status === ConvoStatus.Error) {
+  const convo = convoData
+    ? parseConvoView(convoData, currentAccount?.did)
+    : null
+
+  if (error) {
     return (
       <Error
         title={l`Something went wrong`}
         message={l`We couldn’t load this conversation’s settings`}
-        onRetry={() => convoState.error.retry()}
+        onRetry={() => refetch()}
         sideBorders={false}
       />
     )
   }
 
-  if (!convoState.convo || !moderationOpts) {
+  if (!convo || !moderationOpts) {
     return (
       <View style={[a.flex_1, a.align_center, a.justify_center]}>
         <Loader size="xl" />
@@ -125,7 +131,7 @@ function SettingsInner() {
     )
   }
 
-  if (convoState.convo.kind !== 'group') {
+  if (convo.kind !== 'group') {
     return (
       <Error
         title={l`Wrong kind of conversation`}
@@ -141,13 +147,7 @@ function SettingsInner() {
     )
   }
 
-  return (
-    <GroupSettings
-      convo={convoState.convo}
-      moderationOpts={moderationOpts}
-      isReady={isConvoActive(convoState)}
-    />
-  )
+  return <GroupSettings convo={convo} moderationOpts={moderationOpts} />
 }
 
 function keyExtractor(item: Item) {
@@ -170,11 +170,9 @@ function isGroupMember(
 function GroupSettings({
   convo,
   moderationOpts,
-  isReady,
 }: {
   convo: Extract<ConvoWithDetails, {kind: 'group'}>
   moderationOpts: ModerationOpts
-  isReady: boolean
 }) {
   const [isPTRing, setIsPTRing] = useState(false)
 
@@ -254,7 +252,7 @@ function GroupSettings({
           />
         )
       case 'ADD_MEMBERS_LINK':
-        return <AddMembersLink convo={convo} disabled={!isReady} />
+        return <AddMembersLink convo={convo} />
       case 'CHAT_MEMBER':
         return (
           <Member
@@ -295,7 +293,6 @@ function GroupSettings({
           convo={convo}
           isOwner={isOwner}
           moderationOpts={moderationOpts}
-          isReady={isReady}
         />
       }
       renderItem={renderItem}
@@ -311,12 +308,10 @@ function SettingsHeader({
   convo,
   isOwner,
   moderationOpts,
-  isReady,
 }: {
   convo: Extract<ConvoWithDetails, {kind: 'group'}>
   isOwner: boolean
   moderationOpts: ModerationOpts
-  isReady: boolean
 }) {
   const t = useTheme()
   const {i18n, t: l} = useLingui()
@@ -476,7 +471,7 @@ function SettingsHeader({
           ]}>
           <SettingsButton
             color={convo.view.muted ? 'negative_subtle' : 'secondary'}
-            disabled={!isReady || isMuting}
+            disabled={isMuting}
             icon={convo.view.muted ? BellOffIcon : BellIcon}
             label={
               convo.view.muted
@@ -488,7 +483,7 @@ function SettingsHeader({
           />
           {isOwner ? (
             <SettingsButton
-              disabled={!isReady || isEditingName}
+              disabled={isEditingName}
               icon={EditIcon}
               label={l`Edit this group chat’s name`}
               text={l`Edit name`}
@@ -497,7 +492,7 @@ function SettingsHeader({
           ) : null}
           {isJoinLinkEnabled ? (
             <SettingsButton
-              disabled={!isReady || lockStatus !== 'unlocked'}
+              disabled={lockStatus !== 'unlocked'}
               icon={ChainLinkIcon}
               label={
                 isOwner
@@ -511,7 +506,7 @@ function SettingsHeader({
           {canLockGroupChat ? (
             <SettingsButton
               color={lockStatus === 'locked' ? 'negative_subtle' : 'secondary'}
-              disabled={!isReady || isLocking}
+              disabled={isLocking}
               icon={LockIcon}
               label={
                 lockStatus === 'locked'
@@ -526,7 +521,6 @@ function SettingsHeader({
           ) : null}
           {!isOwner && isReportLinkEnabled && (
             <SettingsButton
-              disabled={!isReady}
               icon={FlagIcon}
               label={l`Report this group chat`}
               text={l`Report`}
@@ -535,7 +529,7 @@ function SettingsHeader({
           )}
           {!isOwner && (
             <SettingsButton
-              disabled={!isReady || isLeaving}
+              disabled={isLeaving}
               icon={ArrowBoxLeftIcon}
               label={l`Leave this group chat`}
               text={l`Leave`}
diff --git a/src/screens/Messages/components/ChatStatusInfo.tsx b/src/screens/Messages/components/ChatStatusInfo.tsx
index 43158e4b1a..8264d3b540 100644
--- a/src/screens/Messages/components/ChatStatusInfo.tsx
+++ b/src/screens/Messages/components/ChatStatusInfo.tsx
@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
-import {useCallback, useMemo} from 'react'
+import {useMemo} from 'react'
 import {View} from 'react-native'
 import {LinearGradient} from 'expo-linear-gradient'
 import {ChatBskyConvoDefs, moderateProfile} from '@atproto/api'
@@ -7,35 +7,29 @@ import {Trans, useLingui} from '@lingui/react/macro'
 import {createSanitizedDisplayName} from '#/lib/moderation/create-sanitized-display-name'
 import {sanitizeHandle} from '#/lib/strings/handles'
 import {useProfileShadow} from '#/state/cache/profile-shadow'
-import {type ActiveConvoStates} from '#/state/messages/convo'
 import {useModerationOpts} from '#/state/preferences/moderation-opts'
 import {PreviewableUserAvatar} from '#/view/com/util/UserAvatar'
 import {atoms as a, useTheme, web} from '#/alf'
 import {LeaveConvoPrompt} from '#/components/dms/LeaveConvoPrompt'
+import {type ConvoWithDetails} from '#/components/dms/util'
 import {KnownFollowers} from '#/components/KnownFollowers'
 import {usePromptControl} from '#/components/Prompt'
 import {Text} from '#/components/Typography'
 import type * as bsky from '#/types/bsky'
 import {AcceptChatButton, DeleteChatButton, RejectMenu} from './RequestButtons'
 
-export function ChatStatusInfo({convoState}: {convoState: ActiveConvoStates}) {
+export function ChatStatusInfo({convo}: {convo: ConvoWithDetails}) {
   const t = useTheme()
   const {t: l} = useLingui()
   const moderationOpts = useModerationOpts()
   const leaveConvoControl = usePromptControl()
 
-  const onAcceptChat = useCallback(() => {
-    convoState.markConvoAccepted()
-  }, [convoState])
-
   // either the other person, or the chat owner
   // if we ever allow someone other than the owner to invite people, this will need to change
-  const otherUser = convoState.convo.primaryMember
+  const otherUser = convo.primaryMember
 
-  const lastMessage = ChatBskyConvoDefs.isMessageView(
-    convoState.convo.view.lastMessage,
-  )
-    ? convoState.convo.view.lastMessage
+  const lastMessage = ChatBskyConvoDefs.isMessageView(convo.view.lastMessage)
+    ? convo.view.lastMessage
     : null
 
   if (!moderationOpts) {
@@ -65,7 +59,7 @@ export function ChatStatusInfo({convoState}: {convoState: ActiveConvoStates}) {
           <RejectMenu
             label={lastMessage ? l`Block or report` : l`Block`}
             icon={true}
-            convo={convoState.convo.view}
+            convo={convo.view}
             profile={otherUser}
             color="negative_subtle"
             size="large"
@@ -80,7 +74,7 @@ export function ChatStatusInfo({convoState}: {convoState: ActiveConvoStates}) {
             context: 'Button',
           })}
           icon={true}
-          convo={convoState.convo.view}
+          convo={convo.view}
           color="secondary"
           size="large"
           currentScreen="conversation"
@@ -88,7 +82,7 @@ export function ChatStatusInfo({convoState}: {convoState: ActiveConvoStates}) {
           onPress={leaveConvoControl.open}
         />
         <LeaveConvoPrompt
-          convoId={convoState.convo.view.id}
+          convoId={convo.view.id}
           control={leaveConvoControl}
           currentScreen="conversation"
           hasMessages={false}
@@ -97,8 +91,7 @@ export function ChatStatusInfo({convoState}: {convoState: ActiveConvoStates}) {
       <View style={[a.w_full, a.flex_row]}>
         <AcceptChatButton
           icon={true}
-          onAcceptConvo={onAcceptChat}
-          convo={convoState.convo.view}
+          convo={convo.view}
           color="primary"
           size="large"
           currentScreen="conversation"
diff --git a/src/screens/Messages/components/MessagesList.tsx b/src/screens/Messages/components/MessagesList.tsx
index 8319ad26a0..5739be1645 100644
--- a/src/screens/Messages/components/MessagesList.tsx
+++ b/src/screens/Messages/components/MessagesList.tsx
@@ -57,6 +57,7 @@ import {MessageItem} from '#/components/dms/MessageItem'
 import {NewMessagesPill} from '#/components/dms/NewMessagesPill'
 import {SystemMessageGroup} from '#/components/dms/SystemMessageGroup'
 import {SystemMessageItem} from '#/components/dms/SystemMessageItem'
+import {type ConvoWithDetails} from '#/components/dms/util'
 import {Loader} from '#/components/Loader'
 import {Text} from '#/components/Typography'
 import {useAnalytics} from '#/analytics'
@@ -112,20 +113,25 @@ function onScrollToIndexFailed() {
 }
 
 export function MessagesList({
+  convo,
   hasScrolled,
   setHasScrolled,
   footer,
   hasAcceptOverride,
   transparentHeaderHeight,
+  hideMessages,
 }: {
+  convo: ConvoWithDetails
   hasScrolled: boolean
   setHasScrolled: React.Dispatch<React.SetStateAction<boolean>>
   footer?: React.ReactNode
   hasAcceptOverride?: boolean
   transparentHeaderHeight?: number
+  hideMessages?: boolean
 }) {
   const ax = useAnalytics()
   const convoState = useConvoActive()
+  const isGroupChat = convo.kind === 'group'
   const agent = useAgent()
   const getPost = useGetPost()
   const {embedUri, setEmbed} = useMessageEmbed()
@@ -419,7 +425,8 @@ export function MessagesList({
       return (
         <MessageItem
           item={item}
-          isGroupChat={convoState.convo.kind === 'group'}
+          convoId={convo.view.id}
+          isGroupChat={isGroupChat}
           prevMessage={getNeighborMessage(renderItems, index - 1)}
           nextMessage={getNeighborMessage(renderItems, index + 1)}
           relatedProfiles={convoState.relatedProfiles}
@@ -480,7 +487,7 @@ export function MessagesList({
   )
 
   return (
-    <InviteLinkDialogProvider convo={convoState.convo}>
+    <InviteLinkDialogProvider convo={convo}>
       <KeyboardGestureArea
         interpolator="ios"
         // HACKFIX: https://github.com/kirillzyusko/react-native-keyboard-controller/issues/1419
@@ -513,22 +520,24 @@ export function MessagesList({
             ListHeaderComponent={
               <>
                 <MaybeLoader isLoading={convoState.isFetchingHistory} />
-                {convoState.convo?.kind === 'group' &&
-                convoState.hasAllHistory ? (
-                  <MessagesListInfoPanel convo={convoState.convo} />
+                {convo.kind === 'group' && convoState.hasAllHistory ? (
+                  <MessagesListInfoPanel convo={convo} />
                 ) : null}
               </>
             }
             // native only (prop is not supported on web)
             renderScrollComponent={renderScrollComponent}
-            contentContainerStyle={{
-              paddingBottom: platform({
-                // ios is slightly larger as the input has no top padding
-                ios: tokens.space.lg,
-                android: tokens.space.md,
-                web: 0, // web uses ListFooterComponent instead for scroll reasons
-              }),
-            }}
+            contentContainerStyle={[
+              hideMessages && {opacity: 0},
+              {
+                paddingBottom: platform({
+                  // ios is slightly larger as the input has no top padding
+                  ios: tokens.space.lg,
+                  android: tokens.space.md,
+                  web: 0, // web uses ListFooterComponent instead for scroll reasons
+                }),
+              },
+            ]}
             ListFooterComponent={
               <View
                 style={web({height: tokens.space.md + inputHeightJS})}
@@ -558,6 +567,7 @@ export function MessagesList({
           {footer ?? (
             <ConversationFooter
               convoState={convoState}
+              convo={convo}
               hasAcceptOverride={hasAcceptOverride}>
               {ax.features.enabled(ax.features.DmsNewMessageComposerEnable) ? (
                 <MessageComposer
@@ -633,6 +643,7 @@ type FooterState = 'loading' | 'new-chat' | 'request' | 'standard'
 
 function getFooterState(
   convoState: ActiveConvoStates,
+  convo: ConvoWithDetails,
   hasAcceptOverride?: boolean,
 ): FooterState {
   if (convoState.items.length === 0) {
@@ -643,7 +654,7 @@ function getFooterState(
     }
   }
 
-  if (convoState.convo.view.status === 'request' && !hasAcceptOverride) {
+  if (convo.view.status === 'request' && !hasAcceptOverride) {
     return 'request'
   }
 
@@ -652,10 +663,12 @@ function getFooterState(
 
 function ConversationFooter({
   convoState,
+  convo,
   hasAcceptOverride,
   children,
 }: {
   convoState: ConvoState
+  convo: ConvoWithDetails
   hasAcceptOverride?: boolean
   children?: React.ReactNode // message input
 }) {
@@ -663,11 +676,11 @@ function ConversationFooter({
     return null
   }
 
-  const footerState = getFooterState(convoState, hasAcceptOverride)
+  const footerState = getFooterState(convoState, convo, hasAcceptOverride)
 
   switch (footerState) {
     case 'loading':
-      return null
+      return children
     case 'new-chat':
       return (
         <>
@@ -676,7 +689,7 @@ function ConversationFooter({
         </>
       )
     case 'request':
-      return <ChatStatusInfo convoState={convoState} />
+      return <ChatStatusInfo convo={convo} />
     case 'standard':
       return children
   }
diff --git a/src/state/messages/convo/agent.ts b/src/state/messages/convo/agent.ts
index e4a92ad8d6..059e2ced5a 100644
--- a/src/state/messages/convo/agent.ts
+++ b/src/state/messages/convo/agent.ts
@@ -4,7 +4,6 @@ import {
   ChatBskyConvoDefs,
   type ChatBskyConvoGetLog,
   type ChatBskyConvoSendMessage,
-  type ChatBskyGroupDefs,
 } from '@atproto/api'
 import {XRPCError} from '@atproto/api'
 import {EventEmitter} from 'eventemitter3'
@@ -26,7 +25,6 @@ import {
   type ConvoDispatch,
   ConvoDispatchEvent,
   type ConvoError,
-  ConvoErrorCode,
   type ConvoEvent,
   type ConvoItem,
   ConvoItemError,
@@ -37,11 +35,6 @@ import {
 import {type MessagesEventBus} from '#/state/messages/events/agent'
 import {type MessagesEventBusError} from '#/state/messages/events/types'
 import {logger} from '#/state/messages/logger'
-import {
-  type ConvoWithDetails,
-  type GroupConvoMember,
-  parseConvoView,
-} from '#/components/dms/util'
 import {IS_NATIVE} from '#/env'
 
 export function isConvoItemMessage(
@@ -81,6 +74,7 @@ export class Convo {
   private agent: AtpAgent
   private events: MessagesEventBus
   private senderUserDid: string
+  private getRecipientDids: () => string[]
 
   private status: ConvoStatus = ConvoStatus.Uninitialized
   private error: ConvoError | undefined
@@ -115,9 +109,6 @@ export class Convo {
   private emitter = new EventEmitter<{event: [ConvoEvent]}>()
 
   convoId: string
-  convo: ConvoWithDetails | undefined
-  sender: ChatBskyActorDefs.ProfileViewBasic | undefined
-  recipients: ChatBskyActorDefs.ProfileViewBasic[] | undefined
   snapshot: ConvoState | undefined
 
   constructor(params: ConvoParams) {
@@ -126,12 +117,8 @@ export class Convo {
     this.agent = params.agent
     this.events = params.events
     this.senderUserDid = params.agent.assertDid
+    this.getRecipientDids = params.getRecipientDids
 
-    if (params.placeholderData) {
-      this.setupPlaceholderData(params.placeholderData)
-    }
-
-    this.setConvo = this.setConvo.bind(this)
     this.subscribe = this.subscribe.bind(this)
     this.getSnapshot = this.getSnapshot.bind(this)
     this.sendMessage = this.sendMessage.bind(this)
@@ -140,13 +127,9 @@ export class Convo {
     this.ingestFirehose = this.ingestFirehose.bind(this)
     this.onFirehoseConnect = this.onFirehoseConnect.bind(this)
     this.onFirehoseError = this.onFirehoseError.bind(this)
-    this.markConvoAccepted = this.markConvoAccepted.bind(this)
     this.addReaction = this.addReaction.bind(this)
     this.removeReaction = this.removeReaction.bind(this)
-    this.updateGroupName = this.updateGroupName.bind(this)
-    this.updateGroupMembers = this.updateGroupMembers.bind(this)
-    this.updateJoinLink = this.updateJoinLink.bind(this)
-    this.updateLockStatus = this.updateLockStatus.bind(this)
+    this.updateRelatedProfiles = this.updateRelatedProfiles.bind(this)
   }
 
   private commit() {
@@ -184,7 +167,6 @@ export class Convo {
       deleteMessage: this.deleteMessage,
       sendMessage: this.sendMessage,
       fetchMessageHistory: this.fetchMessageHistory,
-      markConvoAccepted: this.markConvoAccepted,
       addReaction: this.addReaction,
       removeReaction: this.removeReaction,
     }
@@ -193,7 +175,6 @@ export class Convo {
       deleteMessage: undefined,
       sendMessage: undefined,
       fetchMessageHistory: undefined,
-      markConvoAccepted: undefined,
       addReaction: undefined,
       removeReaction: undefined,
     }
@@ -203,7 +184,6 @@ export class Convo {
         return {
           status: ConvoStatus.Initializing,
           items: [],
-          convo: this.convo,
           error: undefined,
           ...shared,
           ...emptyMethods,
@@ -213,7 +193,6 @@ export class Convo {
         return {
           status: this.status,
           items: this.getItems(),
-          convo: this.convo!,
           relatedProfiles: this.relatedProfiles,
           error: undefined,
           ...shared,
@@ -224,7 +203,6 @@ export class Convo {
         return {
           status: this.status,
           items: this.getItems(),
-          convo: this.convo!,
           relatedProfiles: this.relatedProfiles,
           error: undefined,
           ...shared,
@@ -235,7 +213,6 @@ export class Convo {
         return {
           status: this.status,
           items: this.getItems(),
-          convo: this.convo!,
           relatedProfiles: this.relatedProfiles,
           error: undefined,
           ...shared,
@@ -246,7 +223,6 @@ export class Convo {
         return {
           status: this.status,
           items: this.getItems(),
-          convo: this.convo!,
           relatedProfiles: this.relatedProfiles,
           error: undefined,
           ...shared,
@@ -257,7 +233,6 @@ export class Convo {
         return {
           status: ConvoStatus.Error,
           items: [],
-          convo: undefined,
           error: this.error!,
           isFetchingHistory: false,
           hasAllHistory: false,
@@ -268,7 +243,6 @@ export class Convo {
         return {
           status: ConvoStatus.Uninitialized,
           items: [],
-          convo: this.convo,
           error: undefined,
           isFetchingHistory: false,
           // Explicit null check since the value is initially undefined.
@@ -322,20 +296,12 @@ export class Convo {
             this.withdrawRequestedPollInterval()
             break
           }
-          case ConvoDispatchEvent.Disable: {
-            this.status = ConvoStatus.Disabled
-            void this.fetchMessageHistory() // finish init
-            this.cleanupFirehoseConnection?.()
-            this.withdrawRequestedPollInterval()
-            break
-          }
         }
         break
       }
       case ConvoStatus.Ready: {
         switch (action.event) {
           case ConvoDispatchEvent.Resume: {
-            void this.refreshConvo()
             this.requestPollInterval(ACTIVE_POLL_INTERVAL)
             break
           }
@@ -357,12 +323,6 @@ export class Convo {
             this.withdrawRequestedPollInterval()
             break
           }
-          case ConvoDispatchEvent.Disable: {
-            this.status = ConvoStatus.Disabled
-            this.cleanupFirehoseConnection?.()
-            this.withdrawRequestedPollInterval()
-            break
-          }
         }
         break
       }
@@ -372,14 +332,8 @@ export class Convo {
             if (this.wasChatInactive()) {
               this.reset()
             } else {
-              if (this.convo) {
-                this.status = ConvoStatus.Ready
-                void this.refreshConvo()
-                this.maybeRecoverFromNetworkError()
-              } else {
-                this.status = ConvoStatus.Initializing
-                void this.setup()
-              }
+              this.status = ConvoStatus.Ready
+              this.maybeRecoverFromNetworkError()
               this.requestPollInterval(ACTIVE_POLL_INTERVAL)
             }
             break
@@ -397,12 +351,6 @@ export class Convo {
             this.withdrawRequestedPollInterval()
             break
           }
-          case ConvoDispatchEvent.Disable: {
-            this.status = ConvoStatus.Disabled
-            this.cleanupFirehoseConnection?.()
-            this.withdrawRequestedPollInterval()
-            break
-          }
         }
         break
       }
@@ -421,10 +369,6 @@ export class Convo {
             this.error = action.payload
             break
           }
-          case ConvoDispatchEvent.Disable: {
-            this.status = ConvoStatus.Disabled
-            break
-          }
         }
         break
       }
@@ -447,17 +391,9 @@ export class Convo {
             this.error = action.payload
             break
           }
-          case ConvoDispatchEvent.Disable: {
-            this.status = ConvoStatus.Disabled
-            break
-          }
         }
         break
       }
-      case ConvoStatus.Disabled: {
-        // can't do anything
-        break
-      }
       default:
         break
     }
@@ -475,7 +411,6 @@ export class Convo {
   }
 
   private reset() {
-    this.convo = undefined
     this.snapshot = undefined
 
     this.status = ConvoStatus.Uninitialized
@@ -512,97 +447,23 @@ export class Convo {
     }
   }
 
-  private setConvo(convo: ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView) {
-    this.convo = parseConvoView(convo, this.senderUserDid) ?? this.convo
-    if (this.convo) {
-      for (const member of this.convo.members) {
-        this.relatedProfiles.set(member.did, member)
-      }
-    }
-  }
-
-  private updateConvo(convo: Partial<ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView>) {
-    if (this.convo) {
-      this.convo =
-        parseConvoView({...this.convo.view, ...convo}, this.senderUserDid) ??
-        this.convo
-      for (const member of this.convo.members) {
-        this.relatedProfiles.set(member.did, member)
-      }
-    }
-  }
-
   /**
-   * Initialises the convo with placeholder data, if provided. We still refetch it before rendering the convo,
-   * but this allows us to render the convo header immediately.
+   * Merge a batch of related profiles into `this.relatedProfiles`. Called
+   * both by internal ingestion (message-history + firehose responses) and
+   * externally by `ConvoProvider` when `useListConvoMembersQuery` data
+   * updates.
    */
-  private setupPlaceholderData(
-    data: NonNullable<ConvoParams['placeholderData']>,
-  ) {
-    this.setConvo(data.convo)
+  updateRelatedProfiles(profiles: ChatBskyActorDefs.ProfileViewBasic[]) {
+    if (profiles.length === 0) return
+    for (const profile of profiles) {
+      this.relatedProfiles.set(profile.did, profile)
+    }
+    this.commit()
   }
 
-  private async setup() {
-    const setupStart = Date.now()
-    logger.debug('setup start', {id: this.id, convoId: this.convoId})
-    try {
-      const {convo} = await this.fetchConvo()
-
-      this.setConvo(convo)
-
-      /*
-       * Some validation prior to `Ready` status
-       */
-      if (!this.convo) {
-        throw new Error('could not find convo')
-      }
-
-      const self = this.convo.members.find(m => m.did === this.senderUserDid)
-
-      if (!self) {
-        throw new Error('could not find self in convo')
-      }
-
-      const userIsDisabled = Boolean(self.chatDisabled)
-
-      logger.debug('setup complete', {
-        id: this.id,
-        convoId: this.convoId,
-        setupMs: Date.now() - setupStart,
-        userIsDisabled,
-      })
-
-      if (userIsDisabled) {
-        this.dispatch({event: ConvoDispatchEvent.Disable})
-      } else {
-        this.dispatch({event: ConvoDispatchEvent.Ready})
-      }
-    } catch (err) {
-      const e = err as Error
-      logger.debug('setup failed', {
-        id: this.id,
-        convoId: this.convoId,
-        setupMs: Date.now() - setupStart,
-        message: e.message,
-      })
-      if (!isNetworkError(e) && !isErrorMaybeAppPasswordPermissions(e)) {
-        logger.error('setup failed', {
-          safeMessage: e.message,
-        })
-      }
-
-      this.dispatch({
-        event: ConvoDispatchEvent.Error,
-        payload: {
-          exception: e,
-          code: ConvoErrorCode.InitFailed,
-          retry: () => {
-            this.reset()
-          },
-        },
-      })
-      this.commit()
-    }
+  private setup() {
+    logger.debug('setup', {id: this.id, convoId: this.convoId})
+    this.dispatch({event: ConvoDispatchEvent.Ready})
   }
 
   init() {
@@ -644,102 +505,6 @@ export class Convo {
     }
   }
 
-  private pendingFetchConvo:
-    | Promise<{convo: ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView}>
-    | undefined
-  async fetchConvo() {
-    if (this.pendingFetchConvo) return this.pendingFetchConvo
-
-    // non-blocking
-    void this.fetchMemberList()
-
-    const fetchStart = Date.now()
-    logger.debug('fetchConvo start', {id: this.id, convoId: this.convoId})
-    this.pendingFetchConvo = (async () => {
-      try {
-        const response = await networkRetry(2, () => {
-          return this.agent.chat.bsky.convo.getConvo(
-            {convoId: this.convoId},
-            {headers: DM_SERVICE_HEADERS},
-          )
-        })
-
-        const convo = response.data.convo
-
-        logger.debug('fetchConvo done', {
-          id: this.id,
-          convoId: this.convoId,
-          fetchMs: Date.now() - fetchStart,
-        })
-
-        return {
-          convo,
-        }
-      } finally {
-        this.pendingFetchConvo = undefined
-      }
-    })()
-
-    return this.pendingFetchConvo
-  }
-
-  async refreshConvo() {
-    try {
-      void this.fetchMemberList()
-      const {convo} = await this.fetchConvo()
-      // throw new Error('UNCOMMENT TO TEST REFRESH FAILURE')
-      this.setConvo(convo)
-    } catch (err) {
-      const e = err as Error
-      if (!isNetworkError(e) && !isErrorMaybeAppPasswordPermissions(e)) {
-        logger.error(`failed to refresh convo`, {
-          safeMessage: e.message,
-        })
-      }
-    }
-  }
-
-  // purely for populating `this.relatedProfiles` - we do not pipe it
-  // into the ConvoWithDetails. If you want to drive UI based on the member list,
-  // use `useListConvoMembersQuery`
-  // we shouldn't also block loading off of this - the UI should be resilient
-  async fetchMemberList() {
-    const start = Date.now()
-    let cursor: string | undefined
-    let pages = 0
-    let total = 0
-    logger.debug('fetchMemberList start', {
-      id: this.id,
-      convoId: this.convoId,
-    })
-    do {
-      const result = await networkRetry(2, () => {
-        return this.agent.chat.bsky.convo.getConvoMembers(
-          {
-            convoId: this.convoId,
-            limit: 50,
-            cursor,
-          },
-          {headers: DM_SERVICE_HEADERS},
-        )
-      })
-      cursor = result.data.cursor
-      pages++
-      total += result.data.members.length
-
-      for (const member of result.data.members) {
-        this.relatedProfiles.set(member.did, member)
-      }
-    } while (cursor)
-    logger.debug('fetchMemberList done', {
-      id: this.id,
-      convoId: this.convoId,
-      pages,
-      total,
-      fetchMs: Date.now() - start,
-    })
-  }
-
   private fetchMessageHistoryError: {retry: () => void} | undefined
   async fetchMessageHistory() {
     logger.debug('fetchMessageHistory called', {
@@ -1017,11 +782,6 @@ export class Convo {
       id: tempId,
       message,
     })
-    if (this.convo?.view.status === 'request') {
-      this.updateConvo({
-        status: 'accepted',
-      })
-    }
     this.commit()
 
     if (!this.isProcessingPendingMessages && !this.pendingMessageFailure) {
@@ -1029,83 +789,6 @@ export class Convo {
     }
   }
 
-  markConvoAccepted() {
-    this.updateConvo({
-      status: 'accepted',
-    })
-
-    this.commit()
-  }
-
-  updateMuted(muted: boolean) {
-    this.updateConvo({
-      muted,
-    })
-
-    this.commit()
-  }
-
-  updateGroupName(name: string) {
-    if (this.convo?.kind !== 'group') {
-      throw new Error('updateGroupName can only be called on group convo')
-    }
-
-    this.updateConvo({
-      kind: {
-        ...this.convo.details,
-        name,
-      },
-    })
-
-    this.commit()
-  }
-
-  updateGroupMembers(members: GroupConvoMember[], memberCount: number) {
-    if (this.convo?.kind !== 'group') {
-      throw new Error('updateGroupMembers can only be called on group convo')
-    }
-
-    this.updateConvo({
-      members,
-      kind: {
-        ...this.convo.details,
-        memberCount,
-      },
-    })
-
-    this.commit()
-  }
-
-  updateJoinLink(joinLink: ChatBskyGroupDefs.JoinLinkView | undefined) {
-    if (this.convo?.kind !== 'group') {
-      throw new Error('updateJoinLink can only be called on group convo')
-    }
-
-    this.updateConvo({
-      kind: {
-        ...this.convo.details,
-        joinLink,
-      },
-    })
-
-    this.commit()
-  }
-
-  updateLockStatus(lockStatus: ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoLockStatus) {
-    if (this.convo?.kind !== 'group') {
-      throw new Error('updateLockStatus can only be called on group convo')
-    }
-
-    this.updateConvo({
-      kind: {
-        ...this.convo.details,
-        lockStatus,
-      },
-    })
-
-    this.commit()
-  }
-
   async processPendingMessages() {
     logger.debug(
       `processing messages (${this.pendingMessages.size} remaining)`,
@@ -1170,14 +853,11 @@ export class Convo {
           case 'block between recipient and sender':
             this.emitter.emit('event', {
               type: 'invalidate-block-state',
-              accountDids: [
-                this.senderUserDid,
-                ...this.recipients!.map(r => r.did),
-              ],
+              accountDids: [this.senderUserDid, ...this.getRecipientDids()],
             })
             break
           case 'Account is disabled':
-            this.dispatch({event: ConvoDispatchEvent.Disable})
+            this.emitter.emit('event', {type: 'account-disabled'})
             break
           case 'Convo not found':
           case 'Account does not exist':
diff --git a/src/state/messages/convo/index.tsx b/src/state/messages/convo/index.tsx
index 14a297e6b9..2d6ab462e2 100644
--- a/src/state/messages/convo/index.tsx
+++ b/src/state/messages/convo/index.tsx
@@ -3,10 +3,11 @@ import {
   useCallback,
   useContext,
   useEffect,
+  useMemo,
   useState,
   useSyncExternalStore,
 } from 'react'
-import {ChatBskyConvoDefs} from '@atproto/api'
+import {type ChatBskyConvoDefs} from '@atproto/api'
 import {useFocusEffect} from '@react-navigation/native'
 import {useQueryClient} from '@tanstack/react-query'
 
@@ -16,7 +17,6 @@ import {
   type ConvoParams,
   type ConvoState,
   type ConvoStateBackgrounded,
-  type ConvoStateDisabled,
   type ConvoStateReady,
   type ConvoStateSuspended,
 } from '#/state/messages/convo/types'
@@ -27,21 +27,12 @@ import {
   useMarkAsReadMutation,
 } from '#/state/queries/messages/conversation'
 import {RQKEY_ROOT as ListConvosQueryKeyRoot} from '#/state/queries/messages/list-conversations'
+import {useListConvoMembersQuery} from '#/state/queries/messages/list-convo-members'
 import {RQKEY as createProfileQueryKey} from '#/state/queries/profile'
-import {useAgent} from '#/state/session'
-import {type GroupConvoMember} from '#/components/dms/util'
+import {useAgent, useSession} from '#/state/session'
 
 export * from '#/state/messages/convo/util'
 
-function membersChanged(
-  a: ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView['members'],
-  b: ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView['members'],
-) {
-  if (a.length !== b.length) return true
-  const aDids = new Set(a.map(m => m.did))
-  return b.some(m => !aDids.has(m.did))
-}
-
 const ChatContext = createContext<ConvoState | null>(null)
 ChatContext.displayName = 'ChatContext'
 
@@ -63,7 +54,6 @@ export function useConvoActive() {
     | ConvoStateReady
     | ConvoStateBackgrounded
     | ConvoStateSuspended
-    | ConvoStateDisabled
   if (!ctx) {
     throw new Error('useConvo must be used within a ConvoProvider')
   }
@@ -82,17 +72,27 @@ export function ConvoProvider({
   const queryClient = useQueryClient()
   const agent = useAgent()
   const events = useMessagesEventBus()
-  const [convo] = useState(() => {
-    const placeholder = queryClient.getQueryData<ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView>(
+  const {currentAccount} = useSession()
+
+  const getRecipientDids = useCallback(() => {
+    const convo = queryClient.getQueryData<ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView>(
       getConvoKey(convoId),
     )
-    return new Convo({
-      convoId,
-      agent,
-      events,
-      placeholderData: placeholder ? {convo: placeholder} : undefined,
-    })
-  })
+    if (!convo) return []
+    return convo.members
+      .filter(m => m.did !== currentAccount?.did)
+      .map(m => m.did)
+  }, [queryClient, convoId, currentAccount?.did])
+
+  const [convo] = useState(
+    () =>
+      new Convo({
+        convoId,
+        agent,
+        events,
+        getRecipientDids,
+      }),
+  )
   const service = useSyncExternalStore(convo.subscribe, convo.getSnapshot)
   const {mutate: markAsRead} = useMarkAsReadMutation()
 
@@ -103,15 +103,30 @@ export function ConvoProvider({
       if (isActive) {
         convo.resume()
         markAsRead({convoId})
+        // agent no longer owns the convo — invalidate the RQ cache so the
+        // header, member list, and status stay fresh after returning to
+        // the screen.
+        void queryClient.invalidateQueries({queryKey: getConvoKey(convoId)})
 
         return () => {
           convo.background()
           markAsRead({convoId})
         }
       }
-    }, [isActive, convo, convoId, markAsRead]),
+    }, [isActive, convo, convoId, markAsRead, queryClient]),
   )
 
+  // Push member-list data into the agent's `relatedProfiles` Map so that
+  // messages render sender names even when the sender isn't returned in the
+  // per-message `relatedProfiles` payload. The query hook is already
+  // firehose-aware for add/remove-member events.
+  const {data: memberList} = useListConvoMembersQuery({convoId})
+  useEffect(() => {
+    if (memberList) {
+      convo.updateRelatedProfiles(memberList)
+    }
+  }, [memberList, convo])
+
   useEffect(() => {
     return convo.on(event => {
       switch (event.type) {
@@ -124,52 +139,44 @@ export function ConvoProvider({
           void queryClient.invalidateQueries({
             queryKey: [ListConvosQueryKeyRoot],
           })
+          break
+        }
+        case 'account-disabled': {
+          // Re-fetch the convo so the UI can surface the disabled state
+          // via `chatDisabled` on the self member.
+          void queryClient.invalidateQueries({
+            queryKey: getConvoKey(convoId),
+          })
+          break
         }
       }
     })
-  }, [convo, queryClient])
+  }, [convo, queryClient, convoId])
 
-  useEffect(() => {
-    const [root, id] = getConvoKey(convoId)
-    return queryClient.getQueryCache().subscribe(event => {
-      const queryKey = event.query.queryKey as string[]
-      if (queryKey[0] === root && queryKey[1] === id) {
-        const data = event.query.state.data as
-          | ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView
-          | undefined
-        if (data && convo.convo && data.muted !== convo.convo.view.muted) {
-          convo.updateMuted(data.muted)
-        }
-        if (
-          data &&
-          ChatBskyConvoDefs.isGroupConvo(data.kind) &&
-          convo.convo?.kind === 'group'
-        ) {
-          if (data.kind.name !== convo.convo.details.name) {
-            convo.updateGroupName(data.kind.name)
-          }
-          if (data.kind.joinLink !== convo.convo.details.joinLink) {
-            convo.updateJoinLink(data.kind.joinLink)
-          }
-          if (data.kind.lockStatus !== convo.convo.details.lockStatus) {
-            convo.updateLockStatus(data.kind.lockStatus)
-          }
-        }
-        if (
-          data &&
-          ChatBskyConvoDefs.isGroupConvo(data.kind) &&
-          convo.convo?.kind === 'group' &&
-          (membersChanged(data.members, convo.convo.members) ||
-            data.kind.memberCount !== convo.convo.details.memberCount)
-        ) {
-          convo.updateGroupMembers(
-            data.members as GroupConvoMember[],
-            data.kind.memberCount,
-          )
-        }
-      }
-    })
-  }, [convo, convoId, queryClient])
+  // Auto-accept: when the user sends in a request-status convo, optimistically
+  // flip the cached status to 'accepted' so UI updates immediately. The server
+  // accepts on first send.
+  const wrappedService = useMemo<ConvoState>(() => {
+    if (!isConvoActive(service)) return service
+    const originalSend = service.sendMessage
+    return {
+      ...service,
+      sendMessage: message => {
+        queryClient.setQueryData<ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView>(
+          getConvoKey(convoId),
+          old => {
+            if (!old || old.status !== 'request') return old
+            return {...old, status: 'accepted'}
+          },
+        )
+        originalSend(message)
+      },
+    }
+  }, [service, queryClient, convoId])
 
-  return <ChatContext.Provider value={service}>{children}</ChatContext.Provider>
+  return (
+    <ChatContext.Provider value={wrappedService}>
+      {children}
+    </ChatContext.Provider>
+  )
 }
diff --git a/src/state/messages/convo/types.ts b/src/state/messages/convo/types.ts
index 363c8291b5..5ad06b8852 100644
--- a/src/state/messages/convo/types.ts
+++ b/src/state/messages/convo/types.ts
@@ -6,15 +6,18 @@ import {
 } from '@atproto/api'
 
 import {type MessagesEventBus} from '#/state/messages/events/agent'
-import {type ConvoWithDetails} from '#/components/dms/util'
 
 export type ConvoParams = {
   convoId: string
   agent: BskyAgent
   events: MessagesEventBus
-  placeholderData?: {
-    convo: ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView
-  }
+  /**
+   * Returns the DIDs of the current user's conversation partners (every
+   * member other than self). Called lazily when the agent needs to invalidate
+   * block state after a send failure. Source of truth is the `useConvoQuery`
+   * cache — see `ConvoProvider`.
+   */
+  getRecipientDids: () => string[]
 }
 
 export enum ConvoStatus {
@@ -108,42 +111,36 @@ type SendMessage = (
   message: ChatBskyConvoSendMessage.InputSchema['message'],
 ) => void
 type FetchMessageHistory = () => Promise<void>
-type MarkConvoAccepted = () => void
 type AddReaction = (messageId: string, reaction: string) => Promise<void>
 type RemoveReaction = (messageId: string, reaction: string) => Promise<void>
 
 export type ConvoStateUninitialized = {
   status: ConvoStatus.Uninitialized
   items: []
-  convo: ConvoWithDetails | undefined
   error: undefined
   isFetchingHistory: false
   hasAllHistory: boolean
   deleteMessage: undefined
   sendMessage: undefined
   fetchMessageHistory: undefined
-  markConvoAccepted: undefined
   addReaction: undefined
   removeReaction: undefined
 }
 export type ConvoStateInitializing = {
   status: ConvoStatus.Initializing
   items: []
-  convo: ConvoWithDetails | undefined
   error: undefined
   isFetchingHistory: boolean
   hasAllHistory: boolean
   deleteMessage: undefined
   sendMessage: undefined
   fetchMessageHistory: undefined
-  markConvoAccepted: undefined
   addReaction: undefined
   removeReaction: undefined
 }
 export type ConvoStateReady = {
   status: ConvoStatus.Ready
   items: ConvoItem[]
-  convo: ConvoWithDetails
   relatedProfiles: Map<string, ChatBskyActorDefs.ProfileViewBasic>
   error: undefined
   isFetchingHistory: boolean
@@ -151,14 +148,12 @@ export type ConvoStateReady = {
   deleteMessage: DeleteMessage
   sendMessage: SendMessage
   fetchMessageHistory: FetchMessageHistory
-  markConvoAccepted: MarkConvoAccepted
   addReaction: AddReaction
   removeReaction: RemoveReaction
 }
 export type ConvoStateBackgrounded = {
   status: ConvoStatus.Backgrounded
   items: ConvoItem[]
-  convo: ConvoWithDetails
   relatedProfiles: Map<string, ChatBskyActorDefs.ProfileViewBasic>
   error: undefined
   isFetchingHistory: boolean
@@ -166,14 +161,12 @@ export type ConvoStateBackgrounded = {
   deleteMessage: DeleteMessage
   sendMessage: SendMessage
   fetchMessageHistory: FetchMessageHistory
-  markConvoAccepted: MarkConvoAccepted
   addReaction: AddReaction
   removeReaction: RemoveReaction
 }
 export type ConvoStateSuspended = {
   status: ConvoStatus.Suspended
   items: ConvoItem[]
-  convo: ConvoWithDetails
   relatedProfiles: Map<string, ChatBskyActorDefs.ProfileViewBasic>
   error: undefined
   isFetchingHistory: boolean
@@ -181,28 +174,24 @@ export type ConvoStateSuspended = {
   deleteMessage: DeleteMessage
   sendMessage: SendMessage
   fetchMessageHistory: FetchMessageHistory
-  markConvoAccepted: MarkConvoAccepted
   addReaction: AddReaction
   removeReaction: RemoveReaction
 }
 export type ConvoStateError = {
   status: ConvoStatus.Error
   items: []
-  convo: undefined
   error: ConvoError
   isFetchingHistory: false
   hasAllHistory: false
   deleteMessage: undefined
   sendMessage: undefined
   fetchMessageHistory: undefined
-  markConvoAccepted: undefined
   addReaction: undefined
   removeReaction: undefined
 }
 export type ConvoStateDisabled = {
   status: ConvoStatus.Disabled
   items: ConvoItem[]
-  convo: ConvoWithDetails
   relatedProfiles: Map<string, ChatBskyActorDefs.ProfileViewBasic>
   error: undefined
   isFetchingHistory: boolean
@@ -210,7 +199,6 @@ export type ConvoStateDisabled = {
   deleteMessage: DeleteMessage
   sendMessage: SendMessage
   fetchMessageHistory: FetchMessageHistory
-  markConvoAccepted: MarkConvoAccepted
   addReaction: AddReaction
   removeReaction: RemoveReaction
 }
@@ -223,7 +211,11 @@ export type ConvoState =
   | ConvoStateError
   | ConvoStateDisabled
 
-export type ConvoEvent = {
-  type: 'invalidate-block-state'
-  accountDids: string[]
-}
+export type ConvoEvent =
+  | {
+      type: 'invalidate-block-state'
+      accountDids: string[]
+    }
+  | {
+      type: 'account-disabled'
+    }
diff --git a/src/state/messages/convo/util.ts b/src/state/messages/convo/util.ts
index 5301d10bbb..a364f3a558 100644
--- a/src/state/messages/convo/util.ts
+++ b/src/state/messages/convo/util.ts
@@ -1,7 +1,6 @@
 import {
   type ConvoState,
   type ConvoStateBackgrounded,
-  type ConvoStateDisabled,
   type ConvoStateReady,
   type ConvoStateSuspended,
   ConvoStatus,
@@ -15,7 +14,6 @@ export type ActiveConvoStates =
   | ConvoStateReady
   | ConvoStateBackgrounded
   | ConvoStateSuspended
-  | ConvoStateDisabled
 
 /**
  * Checks if a `Convo` has a `status` that is "active", meaning the chat is
@@ -26,7 +24,6 @@ export function isConvoActive(convo: ConvoState): convo is ActiveConvoStates {
   return (
     convo.status === ConvoStatus.Ready ||
     convo.status === ConvoStatus.Backgrounded ||
-    convo.status === ConvoStatus.Suspended ||
-    convo.status === ConvoStatus.Disabled
+    convo.status === ConvoStatus.Suspended
   )
 }
diff --git a/src/state/queries/messages/accept-conversation.ts b/src/state/queries/messages/accept-conversation.ts
index 0c06055b55..7ca053b667 100644
--- a/src/state/queries/messages/accept-conversation.ts
+++ b/src/state/queries/messages/accept-conversation.ts
@@ -1,5 +1,6 @@
 import {
   type ChatBskyConvoAcceptConvo,
+  type ChatBskyConvoDefs,
   type ChatBskyConvoListConvos,
 } from '@atproto/api'
 import {useMutation, useQueryClient} from '@tanstack/react-query'
@@ -7,6 +8,7 @@ import {useMutation, useQueryClient} from '@tanstack/react-query'
 import {DM_SERVICE_HEADERS} from '#/lib/constants'
 import {logger} from '#/logger'
 import {useAgent} from '#/state/session'
+import {RQKEY as CONVO_KEY} from './conversation'
 import {
   RQKEY as CONVO_LIST_KEY,
   RQKEY_ROOT as CONVO_LIST_ROOT_KEY,
@@ -39,9 +41,18 @@ export function useAcceptConversation(
     onMutate: () => {
       let prevAcceptedPages: ChatBskyConvoListConvos.OutputSchema[] = []
       let prevInboxPages: ChatBskyConvoListConvos.OutputSchema[] = []
+      let prevConvo: ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView | undefined
       let convoBeingAccepted:
         | ChatBskyConvoListConvos.OutputSchema['convos'][number]
         | undefined
+      queryClient.setQueryData<ChatBskyConvoDefs.ConvoView>(
+        CONVO_KEY(convoId),
+        old => {
+          if (!old) return old
+          prevConvo = old
+          return {...old, status: 'accepted'}
+        },
+      )
       queryClient.setQueryData(
         CONVO_LIST_KEY('request'),
         (old?: {
@@ -97,7 +108,7 @@ export function useAcceptConversation(
         },
       )
       onMutate?.()
-      return {prevAcceptedPages, prevInboxPages}
+      return {prevAcceptedPages, prevInboxPages, prevConvo}
     },
     onSuccess: data => {
       queryClient.invalidateQueries({queryKey: [CONVO_LIST_KEY]})
@@ -105,6 +116,9 @@ export function useAcceptConversation(
     },
     onError: (error, _, context) => {
       logger.error(error)
+      if (context?.prevConvo) {
+        queryClient.setQueryData(CONVO_KEY(convoId), context.prevConvo)
+      }
       queryClient.setQueryData(
         CONVO_LIST_KEY('accepted'),
         (old?: {