diff --git a/src/components/dialogs/StarterPackDialog.tsx b/src/components/dialogs/StarterPackDialog.tsx
index ac3861e2b6..0b7759673b 100644
--- a/src/components/dialogs/StarterPackDialog.tsx
+++ b/src/components/dialogs/StarterPackDialog.tsx
@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
-import {useCallback, useState} from 'react'
+import {useCallback} from 'react'
 import {View} from 'react-native'
 import {
   type AppBskyGraphGetStarterPacksWithMembership,
@@ -7,14 +7,12 @@ import {
 import {msg, Plural, Trans} from '@lingui/macro'
 import {useLingui} from '@lingui/react'
 import {useNavigation} from '@react-navigation/native'
-import {useQueryClient} from '@tanstack/react-query'
 
 import {useRequireEmailVerification} from '#/lib/hooks/useRequireEmailVerification'
 import {type NavigationProp} from '#/lib/routes/types'
-import {
-  invalidateActorStarterPacksWithMembershipQuery,
-  useActorStarterPacksWithMembershipsQuery,
-} from '#/state/queries/actor-starter-packs'
+import {isNetworkError} from '#/lib/strings/errors'
+import {logger} from '#/logger'
+import {useActorStarterPacksWithMembershipsQuery} from '#/state/queries/actor-starter-packs'
 import {
   useListMembershipAddMutation,
   useListMembershipRemoveMutation,
@@ -253,50 +251,37 @@ function StarterPackItem({
   const t = useTheme()
   const ax = useAnalytics()
   const {_} = useLingui()
-  const queryClient = useQueryClient()
 
   const starterPack = starterPackWithMembership.starterPack
   const isInPack = !!starterPackWithMembership.listItem
 
-  const [isPendingRefresh, setIsPendingRefresh] = useState(false)
+  const {mutate: addMembership, isPending: isPendingAdd} =
+    useListMembershipAddMutation({
+      onSuccess: () => {
+        Toast.show(_(msg`Added to starter pack`))
+      },
+      onError: err => {
+        if (!isNetworkError(err)) {
+          logger.error('Failed to remove from starter pack', {safeMessage: err})
+        }
+        Toast.show(_(msg`Failed to add to starter pack`), {type: 'error'})
+      },
+    })
 
-  const {mutate: addMembership} = useListMembershipAddMutation({
-    onSuccess: () => {
-      Toast.show(_(msg`Added to starter pack`))
-      // Use a timeout to wait for the appview to update, matching the pattern
-      // in list-memberships.ts
-      setTimeout(() => {
-        invalidateActorStarterPacksWithMembershipQuery({
-          queryClient,
-          did: targetDid,
-        })
-        setIsPendingRefresh(false)
-      }, 1e3)
-    },
-    onError: () => {
-      Toast.show(_(msg`Failed to add to starter pack`), 'xmark')
-      setIsPendingRefresh(false)
-    },
-  })
+  const {mutate: removeMembership, isPending: isPendingRemove} =
+    useListMembershipRemoveMutation({
+      onSuccess: () => {
+        Toast.show(_(msg`Removed from starter pack`))
+      },
+      onError: err => {
+        if (!isNetworkError(err)) {
+          logger.error('Failed to remove from starter pack', {safeMessage: err})
+        }
+        Toast.show(_(msg`Failed to remove from starter pack`), {type: 'error'})
+      },
+    })
 
-  const {mutate: removeMembership} = useListMembershipRemoveMutation({
-    onSuccess: () => {
-      Toast.show(_(msg`Removed from starter pack`))
-      // Use a timeout to wait for the appview to update, matching the pattern
-      // in list-memberships.ts
-      setTimeout(() => {
-        invalidateActorStarterPacksWithMembershipQuery({
-          queryClient,
-          did: targetDid,
-        })
-        setIsPendingRefresh(false)
-      }, 1e3)
-    },
-    onError: () => {
-      Toast.show(_(msg`Failed to remove from starter pack`), 'xmark')
-      setIsPendingRefresh(false)
-    },
-  })
+  const isPending = isPendingAdd || isPendingRemove
 
   const handleToggleMembership = () => {
     if (!starterPack.list?.uri || isPending) return
@@ -313,7 +298,6 @@ function StarterPackItem({
     } else {
       if (!starterPackWithMembership.listItem?.uri) {
         console.error('Cannot remove: missing membership URI')
-        setIsPendingRefresh(false)
         return
       }
       removeMembership({
@@ -379,8 +363,9 @@ function StarterPackItem({
         label={isInPack ? _(msg`Remove`) : _(msg`Add`)}
         color={isInPack ? 'secondary' : 'primary_subtle'}
         size="tiny"
-        disabled={isPendingRefresh}
+        disabled={isPending}
         onPress={handleToggleMembership}>
+        {isPending && <ButtonIcon icon={Loader} />}
         <ButtonText>
           {isInPack ? <Trans>Remove</Trans> : <Trans>Add</Trans>}
         </ButtonText>
diff --git a/src/state/queries/actor-starter-packs.ts b/src/state/queries/actor-starter-packs.ts
index d40e054535..97cc3b5e05 100644
--- a/src/state/queries/actor-starter-packs.ts
+++ b/src/state/queries/actor-starter-packs.ts
@@ -1,13 +1,4 @@
-import {
-  type AppBskyGraphGetActorStarterPacks,
-  type AppBskyGraphGetStarterPacksWithMembership,
-} from '@atproto/api'
-import {
-  type InfiniteData,
-  type QueryClient,
-  type QueryKey,
-  useInfiniteQuery,
-} from '@tanstack/react-query'
+import {type QueryClient, useInfiniteQuery} from '@tanstack/react-query'
 
 import {useAgent} from '#/state/session'
 
@@ -28,13 +19,7 @@ export function useActorStarterPacksQuery({
 }) {
   const agent = useAgent()
 
-  return useInfiniteQuery<
-    AppBskyGraphGetActorStarterPacks.OutputSchema,
-    Error,
-    InfiniteData<AppBskyGraphGetActorStarterPacks.OutputSchema>,
-    QueryKey,
-    string | undefined
-  >({
+  return useInfiniteQuery({
     queryKey: RQKEY(did),
     queryFn: async ({pageParam}: {pageParam?: string}) => {
       const res = await agent.app.bsky.graph.getActorStarterPacks({
@@ -59,13 +44,7 @@ export function useActorStarterPacksWithMembershipsQuery({
 }) {
   const agent = useAgent()
 
-  return useInfiniteQuery<
-    AppBskyGraphGetStarterPacksWithMembership.OutputSchema,
-    Error,
-    InfiniteData<AppBskyGraphGetStarterPacksWithMembership.OutputSchema>,
-    QueryKey,
-    string | undefined
-  >({
+  return useInfiniteQuery({
     queryKey: RQKEY_WITH_MEMBERSHIP(did),
     queryFn: async ({pageParam}: {pageParam?: string}) => {
       const res = await agent.app.bsky.graph.getStarterPacksWithMembership({
diff --git a/src/state/queries/list-memberships.ts b/src/state/queries/list-memberships.ts
index 410a613ada..a7657bb572 100644
--- a/src/state/queries/list-memberships.ts
+++ b/src/state/queries/list-memberships.ts
@@ -14,12 +14,22 @@
  * -prf
  */
 
-import {AtUri} from '@atproto/api'
-import {useMutation, useQuery, useQueryClient} from '@tanstack/react-query'
+import {
+  type AppBskyActorDefs,
+  type AppBskyGraphGetStarterPacksWithMembership,
+  AtUri,
+} from '@atproto/api'
+import {
+  type InfiniteData,
+  useMutation,
+  useQuery,
+  useQueryClient,
+} from '@tanstack/react-query'
 
 import {STALE} from '#/state/queries'
 import {RQKEY as LIST_MEMBERS_RQKEY} from '#/state/queries/list-members'
 import {useAgent, useSession} from '#/state/session'
+import {RQKEY_WITH_MEMBERSHIP as STARTER_PACKS_WITH_MEMBERSHIPS_RKEY} from './actor-starter-packs'
 
 // sanity limit is SANITY_PAGE_LIMIT*PAGE_SIZE total records
 const SANITY_PAGE_LIMIT = 1000
@@ -123,7 +133,7 @@ export function useListMembershipAddMutation({
       // -prf
       return res
     },
-    onSuccess: (data, variables) => {
+    onSuccess: async (data, variables) => {
       // manually update the cache; a refetch is too expensive
       let memberships = queryClient.getQueryData<ListMembersip[]>(RQKEY())
       if (memberships) {
@@ -151,6 +161,42 @@ export function useListMembershipAddMutation({
           queryKey: LIST_MEMBERS_RQKEY(variables.listUri),
         })
       }, 1e3)
+
+      // update WITH_MEMBERSHIPS query
+      const subject = await agent
+        .getProfile({actor: variables.actorDid})
+        .then(res => res.data)
+
+      if (subject) {
+        queryClient.setQueryData<
+          InfiniteData<AppBskyGraphGetStarterPacksWithMembership.OutputSchema>
+        >(STARTER_PACKS_WITH_MEMBERSHIPS_RKEY(variables.actorDid), old => {
+          if (!old) return old
+
+          return {
+            ...old,
+            pages: old.pages.map(page => ({
+              ...page,
+              starterPacksWithMembership: page.starterPacksWithMembership.map(
+                list => {
+                  if (list.starterPack.list?.uri === variables.listUri) {
+                    return {
+                      ...list,
+                      listItem: {
+                        uri: data.uri,
+                        subject: subject as AppBskyActorDefs.ProfileView,
+                      },
+                    }
+                  }
+
+                  return list
+                },
+              ),
+            })),
+          }
+        })
+      }
+
       onSuccess?.(data)
     },
     onError,
@@ -206,6 +252,32 @@ export function useListMembershipRemoveMutation({
           queryKey: LIST_MEMBERS_RQKEY(variables.listUri),
         })
       }, 1e3)
+
+      queryClient.setQueryData<
+        InfiniteData<AppBskyGraphGetStarterPacksWithMembership.OutputSchema>
+      >(STARTER_PACKS_WITH_MEMBERSHIPS_RKEY(variables.actorDid), old => {
+        if (!old) return old
+
+        return {
+          ...old,
+          pages: old.pages.map(page => ({
+            ...page,
+            starterPacksWithMembership: page.starterPacksWithMembership.map(
+              list => {
+                if (list.starterPack.list?.uri === variables.listUri) {
+                  return {
+                    ...list,
+                    listItem: undefined,
+                  }
+                }
+
+                return list
+              },
+            ),
+          })),
+        }
+      })
+
       onSuccess?.(data)
     },
     onError,